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I have already posted in this thread but I feel like I had to add this. If you care about your husband and your marriage, then the two of you need to sit down and discuss how much music means to you.
My wife is a little like your husband. Last year I had two guitars, a Seagull S6 and a Guild F-130. I knew that I really wanted a good USA made guitar. I figured in a couple of years I will have been able to save up the money to buy one. My wife was of the opinion that I already have two guitars, why on earth would I need another one. The difference between my situation and your situation is that my wife knows how much music means to me and how much I enjoy playing my guitar. So last year I came across a great deal on a Larrivee OM-40r. It had everything I wanted. It was a great American made guitar, OM sized, flamed maple binding, rosewood B&S and $500 less than I was planning to spend. The deal was so good that I knew that if I let it pass me by I would always regret it. I immediately texted my wife and told her about it. Much to my surprize she texted back "go ahead and get it". Later she said to me, "you don't play golf, you don't go out drinking with the guys, you don't hunt and you don't fish, so spending a little money on this guitar is a bargain compared to what you could be spending money on". She still doesn't get it (the first thing she said when she saw it was "it looks just like your other guitars") but she does understand that I love music and that I could have worse hobbies or interests that could cost far more money. Talk to your husband. I am sure you can work it out without guilt or hard feelings on either side.
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"Somebody asked what would happen if I bought the Martin without hubby's approval. Probably nothing but I'd feel guilty. I really want him to share my passion."
This is what you may have to get past. Just about everyone here would probably love to have a partner as passionate about music as they are, but not all do, or will. It sounds like you and your husband do enjoy some common interests. Music may never be one of them. But that is no reason for you to feel guilty about spending your time and money on it. You have bought other things he wasn't 100% behind; why not the guitar of your dreams? As someone else said, life is too short.
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Anyway, have you tried that particular model out first? If not, seek one out. Make a special trip if you have to. FWIW, Nazareth is pretty this time of year and NYC and Philly aren't too far away. My wife - also a nonmusical critic - used to make the drive from Philly to Hartford, CT in about 3 hours. If he runs his own business he would probably appreciate a family run business that's been going on for over 5 generations with several generations of loyal employees on the payroll. There should also be a few places to buy that particular model along the way. I won't name names but some are bound to be sponsors here.
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All of us here want you to get that Martin, so when you do let us know and we will party with you and have a cheer or two! Peace Kay!
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Your situation reminds me of how fortunate I am to have a husband who fully supports me in both buying new instruments and the time I spend on practice and lessons even though he does not play. But then, it is also my salary that pays all the bills.
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My wife? She has always said - God bless her - "I can't understand why women or men would want to deprive their spouse of something that brings so much happiness to them. It's almost......cruel, and doesn't seem to be a very good indication of serious love." I've always agreed, and always reciprocated. If hubby doesn't understand the key(s) to your happiness.............?
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I have been married to the same woman for 48 years, but we have been playing music together since the day we met -- soon 50 years. Forty years ago, we decided to invest and play old guitars. We have about 100 instruments -- half mine and half hers. At this time, the guitars are worth much much more than what we paid. We play pretty much every day.
We had a plan and a dream -- worked for us. Here is my wife with her custom Jay Rhyne guitar. Also one of her nick names is AJ -- so she has the (1936) Gibson AJ. Like I said -- music and a joint plan works for us. Let's pick, -Tom |
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I have two guitars. One is a 000-15M. It's my baby and I can relate to your desire.
My wife is generally good about supporting my music passion, but I knew she would not be happy if I spent $1,300 just like that. We're retired and it's harder to "make it back" when we spend larger sums. So my solution was: I had a Gibson LG1 that my parents had bought for me when I was 13, back in 1957. It was in very good shape and had aged well and of course had appreciated in value. I'd always wanted a Martin,, and the first time I played a 000-15M I realized that I'd never loved the sound or feel of that Gibson as much as I loved that Martin. Rather than hang onto it for sentimental reasons I sold it and bought the 000-15M for a lot less cash out of pocket. I have never regretted that decision. I did the same when I bought the Breedlove 12: I sold my Norman 12 to reduce the cash outflow. I haven't regretted that either. In both cases, I felt I was stepping up in quality and getting the sound and playability I loved. My solution may not work for you. One way or another, I hope you can work that out.
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Take the risk. Those are wonderful guitars.
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Of course, the problem with Kay's scenario where her husband buys a bigger Martin is: he will start reading this forum, and she won't be able to commiserate with the folks here. Well, not in this same manner, 'cause he'll know what she is planning. |